Beyond The 4 Walls
|Posted on September 9, 2014 at 8:10 AM|
Good Morning to YOU!
How are you doing today? How has your day been so far? How about your week? How about your summer? I hope that it was great and that you had a wonderful time. If not, what was it that made it less than desireable? Was it your job, your children (if applicable), or your spouse that put a damper or is putting a damper on your life?
For those who are in relationships, which happens to be ALL of us, take solace in the following: your success depends on your desire and willingness to put in the NECESSARY work to change your current circumstance. As I said, we are all in some type of relationship, whether it be an associate, a friend, a boyfriend, a girlfriend, a wife, or a husband. If you are not married, but you find yourself in a relationship, take care that the relationship is going somewhere and that it has purpose. Don't spend months or years in a relationship with a person that you know isn't going anywhere. Don't waste your time. If you want to be married and you're in a relationship with a person that does not want to get married, that is a perfect example of a relationship that is not going anywhere.
For those that are married, unfortunately you do not have the option of getting out of the marriage relationship. If you know me, then you know that I believe that once you get married you are married until death separates you from your spouse (provided there is no abuse. I do not support physical abuse!) Our marriages are under ATTACK and separation and divorce have come TOO close to home. The idea of leaving and quitting is to prominent in our thinking. I want to encourage you to NEVER QUIT. I want to encourage you to seek counsel from someone who knows how to handle the stress that comes with marriage. The stress I'm talking about is the arguing, the shouting, the disrespectful talking, the demeaning comments, the ignoring, the lack of consideration, the disagreement in raising the children, the disagreement on how the finances are used, and many other differences that are present.
Let me tell you that differences are okay, but the way we handle those differences are what creates an atmosphere of joy or sorrow. Those differences are what brought us together in the first place. We must learn how to maintain that healthy respect and love for those differences that attracted us to one another as time goes by.
We live in an instant society, but if you are not strong enough to understand where that instant gratification is appropriate, you can cause great havoc in your life. We can have our needs instantly meet at fast food establishments, but not in our relationships. We can't look at the relationship menu and order "love with a side of encouragement and a kiss" and get it in 90 seconds. It may take a couple years for your spouse to get to that point. Have the patience to endure until that time comes. I PROMISE, it will be worth the wait!